10.29.2010

it's my blog, and i can meme if i want to.

Due, in part, to the fact that one of my co-workers expressed a fascination with knowing weird things about me while we were talking tonight and, in part, as a tribute to another co-worker, from whom I took this, because I think it would make her smile in the midst of an incredibly painful week, I decided that this was the right night to revert back to 2002 or so and fill out a survey...*dun dun dunnnnn* (Also, it's my prerogative to give 20 different answers for each question).


Enjoy...Or don't.


1. What time did you get up this morning?
First at 5, in order to make sure Joe was awake.  Then again at 9:15, because I turned off my alarm at 7:30, which was when I was supposed to get up.
2. How do you like your steak?
Medium.  But, I usually prefer prime rib with horseradish and au jus.
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema?
Oh my. Could it really be "Valentine's Day"?  Has it really been 8 months since I was at the movie theater? Surely I'm forgetting something.
4. What is your favorite TV show?
Community.  Also, Chopped.  And Glee.  I'm bad at this game.
5. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be?
Maine or Washington.  With a second home in St. John, USVI and maybe a little house in Luxembourg.
6. What did you have for breakfast?
oatmeal, eggs and 1 piece of bacon.
7. What is your favorite cuisine?
I love Indian food.  And some Greek. And a lot of Italian and Mexican.
8. What foods do you dislike?
peppers. several kinds of fish. olives.
9.Favorite Place to Eat?
A table...?  Or, sometimes, on the couch. :)
10. Favorite dressing?
Gauze.  But, seriously, I like a nice light balsamic vinaigrette, usually, though I sometimes go a bit crazy and have creamy italian.  And, whenever I'm at Gramma's, I'm obviously going to have the blue cheese.

11. What kind of vehicle do you drive?
A Focus and an Equinox
12. What are your favorite clothes?
hoodies. comfy pants.  anything that allows me to snuggle without being too hot, because that's the worst.
13. Where would you visit if you had the chance?
Everywhere.  I mean it.  I would love to go everywhere.
14. Cup 1/2 empty or 1/2 full?
I can't think of a single thing that I look at and say "Gee...that's half empty."  
15. Where would you want to retire?
See 13.  I want to see the world.
16. Favorite time of day?
Night. 
17. Where were you born?
Louisville, Kentucky
18. What is your favorite sport to watch?
football, obviously.
19. Bird watcher?
I see them.  I don't necessarily watch them, though.

20. Are you a morning person or Night Person ?
Night.  But, I'm pretty peppy once I'm up for the day, too.  Just takes a little while sometimes.

21. Do you have any pets?
No.  I still miss Cinder, though.
22. Any new and exciting news you'd like to share?
We have plans for a game night AND a bowling night at work.  Yup, that's as exciting as it gets.
23. What did you want to be when you were little?
About 480 different things, including archaeologist/Egyptologist, ballerina, detective, artist, writer, teacher, news anchor, airline check-in attendant (LOVED watching them do that stuff), bank teller, grocery store cashier, etc.
24. What is one of your best childhood memories?
It's really really hard to think of just one.  I think our trips to Blossom are up there, though.  And, you know, every holiday.  And all of our vacations.  And most of the other days, too.
25. Are you a cat or dog person?
I like both of them.
26. Are you married?
Yes.  I love my Joey Buttons. :)
27. Always wear your seat belt?
Oh yes.  And I demand that you do, too, if you want to ride in my car.
28. Been in a car accident?
Yes.  My roommate and I were headed home after a weekend in Nashville, and, you know, we just drove under a semi due to a major black ice patch on the highway.  Not the best day ever.

29. Any pet peeves?
Use your blinker when it's appropriate, and then turn it off when you no longer need it.  Wave to me when I let you merge.  And please, PLEASE get off my tail.  Also, stop passing in the right.
30. Favorite Pizza Toppings?
I LOVE a good white pizza with fresh basil, feta and mozz cheeses and garlic.  YUM.
31. Favorite Flower?
gerbers. especially the orange ones.
32. Favorite ice cream?
strawberry cheesecake.
33. Favorite fast food restaurant?
qdoba.
34. How many times did you fail your driver's test?
one.  apparently you're not supposed to run two stop signs.
35. From whom did you get your last email?
shoebuy.com.  very glamorous. 
36. Which store would you choose to max out your credit card?
amazon.com and whole foods and costco
37. Do anything spontaneous lately?
Um...I bought some Odwalla drinks at the store today.  Does that count??
38. Like your job?
I like a lot of things about it.  I especially enjoy the people with whom I work...and many of our regular customers.
39. Broccoli?
Delish.
40. What was your favorite vacation?
Oh good grief.  I can't even begin to answer this.  I've been blessed with so many opportunities to travel, and have yet to be disappointed.  

41. Last person you went out to dinner with?
Does a wedding reception count?  If so, then it was me and 240 others.  I'm not going to name all of them here.

42. What are you listening to right now?
The fan.  I'm actually quite cold.
43. What is your favorite color?
green.
44. How many tattoos do you have?
one
45. Coffee Drinker?
I'm sorry.  Have we not met?

10.21.2010

Renewing my mind.

I have been feeling so overwhelmed lately--absorbing the burden of trying to figure out exactly what I'm supposed to be doing in life, struggling to understanding my self-identity, wondering how to make everything mesh together well.  The way that I have dealt with many of these issues has been to adopt an attitude of ambivalence.  I have disengaged.  The end result is that life has just sort of passed by, and I'm no better for it.  But, it's a lot harder to care when you've decided that they way to deal with certain circumstances is to not care.

I have given a lot of thought as to how I might break free from this lifestyle...how can I get out of the funk, and how can I bless others whose lives have been affected by it (namely, Joe and Andy)?  I've identified a few things that, if implemented, can help me to make some real progress.  Maybe you'll find that some, or all, of them could be helpful for you, too.

1. Stop planning and start doing.  I'm an excellent planner.  I have lists galore.  If I spent a little bit less time thinking about what I want to do, and spend more time actually doing it, I think I'll find that I get a lot more done (I say as I make a list to indicate what I want to do...).  I don't need to write down every last detail of how I spend my day--I know what needs to be done! Similarly, I am great at coming up with viable career options, but don't ever actually go through with any of them.  It's better to try and fail than to not try at all, right?  I'm reminded of Yoda: "Do or do not.  There is no try."  Ah, the wisdom of a little green puppet Jedi.

2. Be more transparent and, as a result, be more vulnerable.  If I can't be honest about the things that frustrate me, or hurt me, or challenge me, then how can I expect anyone to use their gifts to help me?  This is something that I especially need to work on with Joe.  He's my husband--he loves me dearly, despite knowing full well that I'm incredibly flawed--so I need to be better about putting it all out there for him.  In a weird, but real way, I think that this is a way of showing the depth of my love for him, too.

3. Believe that I can do it.  I have found that one of my greatest stumbling blocks is self-doubt.  If I would just adopt a more positive attitude about my potential, then I bet I'd find more success in reaching my goals.  I can run this 5k in December.  I can achieve my weight loss/health goals.  I can write a book.

4. Be transformed by the renewal of my mind.  Scripture is chock-full of stuff that is applicable to me.  It is life-giving and life-affirming.  It is one of the most marvelous tools that I can use to figure out who I am and figure out who I ought to be and to figure out how to get from point A to point B.  And, yet, I don't actively engage the text often enough to really take advantage of such a valuable resource.  I need to re-acclimate myself with Truth.

I think that, when I come out the other side of this tunnel, I will be grateful for the journey that I've taken.  I feel so encouraged, already, by the steps I've taken.  I hope you can find that in your own life, too.

10.14.2010

Just As I Am.

I've come to realize that I'm a pretty fortunate person in a lot of ways, but there's a particular one that I want to highlight today: there are very few people in my life who try to turn me into someone that I'm not--who try to make me who they think I ought to be instead of being content with me as I am.

There are a lot of people, however, who care about me as me.  They know I'm quirky, and that's okay.  That is what makes me entertaining.  They know I'm a dork, and that's okay.  That's how I can relate to people--if you know a lot of things, then you can make people feel great about themselves by actively engaging with them in conversation about the topic of their choosing.  And, of course, everyone who knows me, even a little bit, knows that I have a story for everything, and, particularly, when it comes to music.  I probably drive my co-workers slightly crazy on those nights when, each time a new song comes on, I feel compelled to remind them that, "This song reminds me of my sophomore year of college, when I blah blah blah" or "This was a high school band song, " or, even, "This song was in the Starbucks music rotation back in 2003, too."  Nevertheless, I think everyone at work likes and respects me.  They even know I'm not particularly tidy.  And that I have a hard time making decisions.  And that I get really excited about something for a few months, only to get bored with it and find a new thing about which to be enthused.  All this stuff, and yet I am accepted and loved just as I am.

So, why is it that the people who are most critical of me--who seem most eager for me to change aspects of who I am--are the ones whose voices I hear in my head the most?  Why is it that I can't shake the negativity and replace it with the oodles and oodles of positive stuff that I hear?  Because self-confidence has been a personal struggle for me, anyway, this stuff only serves to make me feel less and less worthwhile as the person that I am.  I have to work very hard to remember that, though I'm certainly far from perfect, I'm also not a bad person.  I know I have room to grow, and always will, and that's a good thing.  But, everything I do can't possibly merit criticism, can it?  I mean, seriously, I was created this way.  I have been wired specially and uniquely.  I'm fearfully and wonderfully made.  On the days when the pressure seems to build because I'm being told to be someone that I'm not, I lean especially hard on the knowledge that, though I can't figure out exactly what it is that I'm supposed to be doing in life, the plan is just for me, just as I am.  And, I trust that that is good enough.